Straight guy turned gay

Over the next few years of having kids and settling down, rather than finding normality and feeling ok, I progressively got more and more depressed. It took over a year after my divorce to find something serious.

Gay Men Were Asked

I have a lot of stories about folks who were homophobic but came around to accepting me and honoring me for being a gay man, once they got to know me beyond what I do in bed. "You know, for a straight guy, I've seen him in some funny places," he says.

People figure their shit out at different times in their lives, so I'm glad I did when I did. Kal's journey to living openly got me thinking of all the other queer men who came out at an older age and how we don't hear enough of their stories.

I ended up being sent away to the USA for work for a few months which gave me time to reflect. We started chatting about stuff and the conversation got onto mental health. I'm now profoundly pessimistic, and think the journey for me pretty much ends with self-acceptance.

I'd noted practical problems in my life that I thought made me a difficult 'sell. Now, this guy was fairly effeminate so I figured he was probably chatting me up because he was interested, but he wasn’t being flirty, and I love talking to people, so I didn’t want to throw out a ‘by the way, I’m straight.’ “I ask him about his dancing, he asks me about work.

I’ve Been Straight All

Maybe those feelings of regret would have become unbearable after a while, and we would have ended up divorcing. I can't predict what would have happened if she hadn't passed away. My eyes just looked sad. Thinking back through my past, I think all of the signs were there as early as 12 or 13, as I can remember having crushes on boys as early as then.

It has been hugely validating to be open and share my husband with the world. My husband helped raise my daughters from the time they were in middle school and in ways they are closer to him than to me. But there's no way to know, and I consider it fortunate that we had our happy years together, and that my future, though different, will feature my true self.

Hard to say and hard to imagine that alternate reality. There was no Grindr or Scruff, only gay. I even posted something on Facebook on National Coming Out Day and outed myself to the larger community of my Facebook friends.

I felt something was wrong with me. We were talking about depression. I wonder if I'd accepted I'm gay when I was 20, if things would have been much different. Even when I did come out, the trend of no relationships continued. I was heavily tied down at one point with family issues.

An older gay man adds that he likes to help out straight guys who are exploring. He could see when I was taking that there was something there. A straight person can’t become gay, as u can’t change ur sexuality but s1 can think there straight when then realises that there gay.